Hey guys, haven't posted as much in 2024 as I have been busy focusing on women, but also working with u/MO_drps_knwldg on an online dating course that we plan to release in 2025. We will obviously be posting about the course once it's ready, but I wanted to share a waiting list for those who want to make sure they don't miss out on the release. It includes a short survey too, but that's totally optional - you can just leave your email address to get notified of the course once it's released if that's all you want.

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It's been an insane year of game for me. I didn't expect to achieve the results I did this year when it started, but after the first 3 months of consistent success (an average of 10 new lays per month), I realized I was on track to finally crack 100 in a year which I eventually achieved in mid-October, 2.5 months before the end of the year, at the age of 31. I ended the year with a final tally of 115, just 5 shy of averaging 10 per month in a year (not complaining though lol).

In the process, I also had a record month (September) where I was able to hit 20 in a month. Pretty much all I did that month has meet with girls lol (needed to detox after that). And finally, I also crossed the 400 mark all-time this year a couple of weeks ago too, which is definitely something teenage me would have never thought possible.

And the truth is, all of this wouldn't have been possible without the support of this sub which has been fundamental in my growth for the past 14 years since I first started getting into game at the age of 17.

Of course, it's not the only thing that has helped me get to this point. The original books on game by Mystery and Neil Strauss set the foundations for me to then apply what I read to real-life situations and learn from my mistakes over time through trial and error. Add in a good coach that I could learn from as well and I was pretty much set for success.

I wouldn't recommend those books anymore these days since they're pretty outdated, but there are plenty of good, current ones that have taken their place (Models by Mark Manson comes to mind) so if anyone's looking to replicate my trajectory, that would be a good place to start.

Combine your reading with consistent self-improvement (both physically and mentally), trial and error in the real world, and advice from guys on this sub who are actually successful, and the results will come.

In the meantime, and to thank you guys, I'm going to share the 5 most important things I've learned over the years that have helped me reach this point:

1.) "Just be yourself" is the most bullshit advice perpetuated by our society (and even some "gurus" who frequent this sub)

Who isn't "being themselves" at any given point in time? I was "being myself" at the age of 17 and yet I was always crashing out with girls whereas I'm still "being myself" at the age of 31 and now don't have enough time to meet all the different girls that are interested in me. So what changed?

I'll tell you, I CHANGED. If I was still the "myself" I was 14 years ago, I would have been lucky to have lost my virginity at this point. Instead I'm breaking records that 17 year old me would have never thought possible. This is because I made an active decision at the start of my journey to fundamentally change who I was so that I would become more attractive to women and actually learn how to seduce them.

This wasn't an overnight process and also didn't mean I started becoming a fake version of myself, it just meant I actively worked on my attractiveness, personality, and social skills with the intention of being able to actually get laid. I still had the same interests and hobbies (although some I grew out of for the better, like video games), but I also picked up new ones that were more interesting for women and still enjoyable for me.

Long story short, you shouldn't "just be yourself" and expect to see any meaningful change in your results. Instead you should work on becoming the best and most attractive version of yourself and only then will you start to see actual change. That's what I did and that's how I ended up where I am now.

2.) Similarly, despite what our society tells you, your attractiveness is extremely important (rules 1 & 2), however it's not all about looks

If you want a woman to be attracted to you, you need to be attractive - full stop. Even if you aren't looking to sleep with hundreds of women like me and are instead looking for "the one" (which is a myth by the way, there are plenty of women out there who could be "the one"), you still need to be attractive so that you have enough chances to be able to woo her.

This is because there is no such thing as only being attractive to one specific woman ever. If one woman finds you attractive, odds are many others do as well. Therefore, you should be aiming to be attractive to as many women as possible so that you increase your odds of finding one that you find attractive.

The good news is that attraction isn't only about looks. Yes, looks are important, but they are not the end-all-be-all. Unlike us cavemen who can decide whether or not we want to sleep with a woman based on what her face looks like, women value a lot more than just your jawline. Does this mean that they don't whore around with super hot guys just because they're hot? Of course not, they definitely do, but it means you still have a chance even if you're not naturally one of those super hot guys.

The best way for every guy to physically make up for being average-looking is by working on your body and becoming fit. If you haven't been blessed with high cheekbones, building up your body should be your number one priority. You don't need to be roided out, but having defined biceps, pecs, and abs is going to take you very far. Sporting a stylish haircut and stylish clothes that fit you well will also go a long way.

Aside from what you look like though, your attractiveness also consists of who you are as a person. Your charisma, confidence, social skills, sense of humour, intelligence, personality, hobbies, and interests all play a big role. And let's not forget about the impact of money, fame, and status too. Have one or more of those and women will easily forgive you for being short, fat, bald, or boring.

Long story short, you need to maximize your attractiveness for the best results. Hit the gym, fix your hair, wear clothes that actually look decent, boost your confidence, learn social skills, pick up interesting hobbies, and put yourself out there so that you're forced to grow as a person and you will become more attractive to more women as a result.

3.) Don't overlook the value of online dating and social media

Could I have achieved my numbers this year without OLD or Instagram? Perhaps, but it likely would have come at the expense of a lot of my time and energy. On the apps, I can talk to multiple different women that I know have an interest in me and set up dates with them, all while sitting on the toilet.

Now compare that to the traditional avenues of night game and daygame. I would have to go out every day and night of the week to find enough girls that might be interested in me to get the same amount of options I get from OLD. Not to mention the amount of energy I'd have to spend doing it too. OLD is just such a more convenient and efficient use of my time.

Now I know what a bunch of you are probably thinking: "OLD is a scam, it doesn't work for me, only male models achieve results", etc, etc. I've worked with plenty of guys on their OLD profiles and let me tell you something. Every single time they complain about OLD not working, it's because THEIR PROFILES ARE COMPLETE SHIT.

OLD is inherently superficial. You NEED to have a profile that looks good if you want to have success on it. This means good photos where you look attractive (part of this is maximizing your attractiveness as discussed in 2.) and that showcase yourself as someone a girl would want to spend time with. No more car selfies, fishing/hunting photos, or awkward group photos that girls have to spend time analyzing to figure out who you are. Do OLD right and your body will be thanking you for not subjecting it to countless nights out anymore.

As for Instagram, it is the most convenient and efficient way to prevent flaking and maintain attraction for days, weeks, months, and even years if done right. I've had girls that I matched with on an app + exchanged IGs with that I only met in person years later because we maintained a connection on IG that whole time. And I'm not saying we had an online relationship, but rather it was as simple as reacting to stories and sending reels/memes to each other from time to time.

Instagram is today's main avenue of social proof. Even girls you meet in person will ask you for your instagram because it is one of the most effective ways for them to make sure you're not a creep, weirdo, or loser. I'm not saying your IG needs to look like Dan Bilzerian's, but rather that you just need to look like people like you and you have an interesting lifestyle.

Do it right and girls will trust you more, feel more comfortable with you, and do things with you they'd never do with any other guy. I've had girls sext me + send me nudes, come over to my place for the first date, hop on flights to join me on a trip, and even let me stay with them in their city when visiting, all without ever having met them in person before, all thanks to Instagram (& good text game of course). If you're not taking advantage of IG in your game, you're missing out.

4.) Learn to flirt in conversation, both in person and via text

Flirting is what is going to take you from being in her friendzone to being in her bedroom and you absolutely must learn to do it effectively, both in person and via text, if you want to succeed. Why? Because women simply aren't logical cavemen like we are. You can't just ask them if they want to fuck, you need to emotionally stimulate them first.

So what is flirting? It's a mix of compliments, teasing, role-playing, and suggestive inferences. For example, complimenting her on her smile, teasing her about where she's from, role-playing as if you are going to be getting married, and making suggestive comments about pulling her hair (in the right context, of course). All things that are going to spike her emotions in a positive way.

Flirting effectively is an artform that requires practice to perfect. It's a balance of asking questions to get to know her while at the same time being fun and playful. Too many questions without being fun and playful and it turns into an interview. Too much fun and playful without showing interest in who she is and she stops taking you seriously. Learning to flirt is learning to find that balance.

The problem is that most guys are too afraid to lose the girls they're talking to by potentially saying the wrong thing so they never take the risks needed to learn how to actually flirt. The extent of their flirting is telling women how beautiful they are because it's almost risk-free to do so. However, if you don't step out of that comfort zone, you'll forever be stuck as the nice guy. Take risks, analyze girls' reactions to them, and adjust accordingly until you find your balance.

This also applies to text game. Lots of guys dismiss text game, claiming that texting should be reserved for setting up the date and follow-up logistics only, but following that advice is only going to backfire on you and I'll prove it: start opening your conversations with every girl you meet or match with by inviting them over to fuck and see how many respond to you. I can tell you right now that the vast majority are going to ignore you (and some might even report you). You need to be more charming than that.

For OLD, the best thing you can do is to establish a repeatable text routine of 5-10 messages where you demonstrate you are a guy who can read social cues and who knows how to make conversation in a fun and playful way, or in other words flirt. I use the same routine with every single match I get and it leads to a number (or in my case, their IG) the majority of the time.

Then once you're talking to her off the apps, yes you should be aiming to get her out on a date at that point (establishing logistics), but that doesn't mean you should cease all communication once a date is set. Continue the conversation like any normal human being, except with the added touch of flirting as discussed above. This will reduce the odds of her flaking by a lot since she will feel a connection with you.

5.) Know when to make a damn move

Mastering flirting will only get you so far if you aren't taking those same risks physically as well. There are way too many stories of guys out there being super charming, saying all the right things and pushing all the right buttons, only to completely fumble it when it comes to making things physical and ending up being placed in the friendzone as a result.

Why is that? Because women will (almost) never make the first move themselves so the responsibility lies completely on you to do so and if you don't do it, well guess what, it simply ain't going to happen. Girls expect you to know how (and when) to make a move and when you don't, they lose interest in you, regardless of how much of a connection you guys made in person before that.

I personally think back to a time when I was 20 years old still learning all this stuff where I somehow convinced a girl from university to come over to watch a movie together. I was so afraid to make a move on her out of fear of doing the wrong thing despite her laying next to me in my bed that all we did was watch the movie for an hour before she decided to go home because she realized I wasn't going to do anything. It pains me every time I think back to it.

So similar to learning how to flirt + text, you need to be willing to take risks to learn how to effectively escalate physically as well. It will be cringe at first, you will make mistakes and you'll end up in some awkward situations sometimes, but that's how you learn. That movie experience was a learning experience for me that I cringe about when I look back on it, but now I have no problems escalating physically.

At the same time though, don't use physical escalation as a crutch. You don't need to sit beside the girl on your dates and you don't need to find some excuse to touch her at the table because you think that physical touch is going to change how she feels about you. I do like to do a princess hand hold at some point during the date, now mainly to test her interest level, but even that is not necessary.

That being said, some kind of move does need to be made by the end of the date no matter what. My personal move at this point is to simply invite her over to my place and then physically escalate there, but if she declines or the logistics don't make sense to invite her over, then I'll default to the kiss. You don't need to be inviting her over to your place at the end of every first date if you're not ready for that yet, but if you're not even going for a kiss at the end of them though, then that's a problem.

And if she does agree to come over to your place, for the love of god make a move. Internalize the idea that the fact that she agreed to come over to your place in the first place means that she wants you to do something. Display confidence and start small by sitting on the couch with your arm around her, then going for the kiss, then caressing her body, then beginning to take her clothes off, and so on. It's called physical escalation, after all.

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Wow okay I wrote a lot more than I was expecting to when I started this post. Hopefully I was able to provide some value for you guys. I wouldn't have been able to get to this point in my game if it wasn't for the things I've learned from frequenting this sub over the past 14 years so I'm truly thankful for it.

Here's to a prosperous 2025 for all of us 🥂

Edit: lol tried to spread a positive message of inspiration and still attracted the haters. People are funny. They'd rather see posts from other guys who are struggling as opposed to ones who are having success as it makes them feel better about their own failures. Immaturity is a curious thing.

A lot of guys struggle with text game, resorting to limiting how much they text and sticking to logistics only since they often shoot themselves in the foot otherwise by texting horribly and killing the attraction.

However, it doesn't really make sense as to why they do that when in reality, text game is very similar to day/night game.

Why?

Well in day/night game, if you want to gain the interest of a girl, you have to be a little polarizing, a little fun, a little flirty.

It's the exact same when texting.

You aren't going to go far with a girl in person if you walk up to her and speak super dryly or the opposite, act super overbearing. The same applies when texting her.

Send dry texts without emotion and she will get bored. (hint: emojis are super useful in making sure your texts are viewed as fun and light hearted)

Similarly, send too many compliments or be too much of a nice guy via text and she will get turned off.

It's a balance, but so is day/night game. Just because you're not speaking to her face to face doesn't mean you should be changing the way you talk to her.

Tease her, use push/pull, show some emotion and play with hers. Basically do everything you already should be doing in person, but just through text.

Do it right and you'll experience less flaking, less ghosting, and more maintained interest, especially if you combine it with an optimized Instagram profile.

A lot of guys ask: "should I pay on the first date? What about the second, third, etc?"

I know this is something I struggled to fully understand for a while, having tried all sorts of different approaches and this is because everyone is different and has different expectations.

Some guys might just say the answer is simple: "you should just pay for everything for her", but even that has its nuances with some women, at least in the western world, not feeling comfortable with the idea that her partner has full financial leverage over her, so it's not so black and white.

This post is meant to share my experiences on the topic and also to spark discussion on it to gather different perspectives. There's a TL;DR at the end too if you're lazy.

FIRST DATES

I've tried both paying for the bill and splitting it on first dates, and while I have had success in the past bringing girls back to mine after splitting the bill (at least in Western countries), I'd had a lot more rejections than when I've paid for it, so in the interest of having the best chance of success, you're better off always paying for the bill on the first date.

Now if your finances are limited and you can't afford to pay for the first date every time, it doesn't mean you have to stop dating altogether. Obviously work on your finances, but also plan cheaper dates. A coffee or drink date as opposed to a dinner date, for example. I never take girls out for dinner on first dates and they never cost me more than $25 or so as a result.

What about when a girl offers to split the bill?

Well, you have to be careful with this because while it could seem like a nice gesture to show she's not just using you for a free meal/drink, it's often not done with the intent to actually pay. Lots of girls will "offer" to split with you, but fully expect you to decline their offer and pay the whole thing and if you don't, it can actually backfire on you later as she loses interest in you for making her split it.

What about when she insists to split it?

In this case, it's likely she isn't interested in you and doesn't want you to feel like you're "owed" something more from her, whether that's sex, a kiss, or to see her again. Of course there are exceptions to the rule with some girls who are more feminist and really want to demonstrate they're independent women, but those are rare. It's usually the case that they're just not into you at all.

What about when she offers to pay the whole bill?

This is rare, but can happen and if it does, it means she's definitely into you. If you like this girl, wife her up because she just demonstrated that she likes you for who you are and not because you have money and/or are willing to provide for her.

What if she asks or expects you to pay for her uber as well?

If she asks you to cover her uber in a Western country, run. She is most definitely just expecting you to treat her in every way possible so unless she's super hot and you're willing to make that investment (see below), take it as a sign to move on. However, if she's from a non-Western country (especially a poorer one like Paraguay, for example), it's less so that she's using you and rather just the standard in those cultures so you're better off paying for it than not.

Note: my usual date strategy is to invite the girl over at the end of the date because this way I can gauge her interest level in me so that's where this advice comes from. I do this before the bill comes because if she agrees to come over, then nothing changes, but if she declines, I sometimes choose to split the bill with her depending on how likely I think it is that I will see her again.

So if she's not giving me signs of interest (like pulling away from a princess hand hold across the table during the date or simply being unclear about wanting to see me again after she declines my invite), then I'll just split the bill with her to not waste my money on someone I will likely never see again.

SECOND, THIRD, ETC DATES / PROVIDING IN GENERAL

This is where it starts to get into more of a grey area. There are some who say the girl should be offering to pay for the second date since you paid for the first whereas others who say the man is expected to pay for all the dates. It depends on where you are, what you're looking for in a relationship, and where the girl is from, to be honest.

While general Western culture promotes gender equality and an expectation that the girl would pay for the next date, for example, there are still plenty of women in the Western world who choose to live with the traditional expectation that men are supposed to "provide" simply because they're men so it really comes down to your own preferences.

Here are my personal views on the topic:

From my perspective, I truly love a woman who is independent. Not because there is less I have to provide, but because she doesn't need someone to provide for her. A woman who can adult on her own but still seeks me as a partner is someone who wants me in her life, and that is extremely attractive. That tells me that she will be by my side working with me, a true partner, not standing behind me, waiting for me to provide for her.

That being said, when I feel like I truly have a partner, it does make me want to treat her. The act of providing doesn't feel like an obligation simply because we are in a relationship. I don't expect a woman to cook and clean for me just because she's a woman so she shouldn't expect me to always provide for her financially just because I'm a man.

When providing financially feels like an obligation as opposed to a voluntary act of service, it feels transactional and treating relationships as transactions simply doesn't do it for me. I want the fact that I decide to treat her to something have meaning. Just as her deciding to cook me my favourite meal without me asking would also have meaning for me too.

This is the case even for casual relationships

And I say all this even for girls I'm just dating casually. I don't have to be considering a relationship with a girl to feel this way. Personally, if I'm trying to sleep with a girl who didn't put out on the first date, I'd probably still pay for the second date to improve my odds of sleeping with her at the end of it and if she declines sex at the end of the second too AND didn't offer to pay for it either, then that's when I choose to move on since at that point she's definitely just using me.

I also try to avoid this situation in general by making the second date a date at my place where we cook together since sex is almost always guaranteed on that type of date. I highly recommend you start doing the same for your second dates.

The only times I'll agree to another date in public with a girl after she's declined to come over to my place after the first date & to cook together is if she offers to pay for the date, I'm trying to start a serious relationship with her (not something I'm trying to do anytime soon), or she's from a non-Western culture or is high caliber (see below).

NON-WESTERN CULTURES & TOP-TIER GIRLS

In non-Western cultures (especially poorer ones), most girls will have the expectation that the man will provide and pay for all the dates. If you're from a Western culture, you can get away with not following this expectation with some girls who understand Western culture and are into you (I have a few girls like that in Mexico for instance), but in general, you will be expected to pay for pretty much everything.

Of course, the women should also be fulfilling their side of things if that's the case by doing what's traditionally expected for a woman as well (cooking, cleaning, pleasing their man, etc), but I personally don't enjoy these types of transactional relationships, as stated earlier, so I don't really pursue these types of women past the first lay.

The one exception

However, if they aren't willing to fulfill their side of the deal in traditional relationships, then the ONLY time you should even consider letting them have their cake and eat it too is if she's a high caliber girl (9 or up) who receives that treatment from enough guys that she can be choosy about who she dates.

These types of girls are Pay to Play and if you want your chance at getting in their pants, you need to be willing to "provide" for them in that way since they will not even give you a second look otherwise. They have enough guys in their DMs willing to do so and there's not enough charm in the world to compete with that, so pony up.

Of course, whether or not these types of girls are worth your time is subjective, but the unfortunate reality is that most high caliber girls are like this so it's just part of the game. There are always exceptions to the rule though with many down to earth 9s out there as well, but those are rare. However, if you find one, definitely lock her down!

If you want to consistently sleep with the highest tier girls though, be prepared to drop cash on them. Don't simp for them by paying for everything without getting sex in return though. If you're treating them all the time and they're not even putting out, then you're wasting both your time and your money.

Oh and in case it's not obvious, I personally wouldn't recommend starting serious relationships with these types of girls unless you have money to spend and your only goal is to have the hottest girlfriend possible, in which case have at 'er. If you're looking for an actual partner though, you're better off finding a girl who actually likes you for who you are as a person without that expectation of money.

TL;DR - Always pay for first dates (with some caveats, see above), only pay for second dates if she's traditional and/or you are too OR she didn't put out after the first, never pay for a third date if she hasn't already put out unless you're looking for a traditional relationship (wrong sub if so), and expect to always pay for everything anyway if she's a top-tier girl (9 or up), but don't become a simp.

What do you guys think? What has your experience been like?

Warning: long story coming up. If you don't feel like reading it, just skip it.

I'm currently in Mexico City and have mostly been using dating apps to meet women (which has been going spectacularly well), but last night a girl who was supposed to come over to bang for the first date cancelled on me because she just got her period so my night was open.

I tried to pull some backup options last minute, but wasn't able to hook anyone (that wanted to come over to mine for the first date) so I decided to go to a language exchange meetup/party instead. I could have gone on a normal date with one of the backup options, but felt like I'd rather see what the social/night game scene was like in CDMX and take my chances there instead of on a date.

I go with a buddy of mine and we notice that the hightop tables with the Brazilian flag were empty so we decided to stand there (since I also speak Portuguese anyway). For context, there were tables with flags on them, but also lots of standing room for you to mix and mingle with anyone you wish, but we wanted to have a table home base.

I notice these two cute girls nearby at the bar and wave the Brazilian flag at them, gesturing at them to come over. They tell us they don't speak Portuguese, but I tell them it doesn't matter, I can teach them. They come over and start talking to us. Now here's where the inspiration for this post all starts.

Pretty much 30 seconds after we start talking to them, this dude comes over to our table to start talking to us. Granted, he spoke fluent Portuguese so he had good reason to, but once it was established that not everyone spoke it, he just completely focused his attention on the two girls, trying to game them.

His game was pretty good, high energy and confident, but it didn't seem like the girls were that physically attracted to him and regardless, he just completely took over the initial interaction we were trying to have with those girls. Maybe you can just say he had better game than us and we just couldn't match him, but it was pretty annoying to have our first set just totally snatched within the first 30 seconds like that.

They still stick at our table though and I get some good convo going with one of the girls since he had to hone in on one of them at some point anyway, but then they eventually move on to go talk to some other people (no big deal, night is still young and I did end up getting that girl's number later she was leaving the venue anyway).

Not too long after, I do the same trick of waving the flag and gesturing a girl to come over to chat with this 8 and she bites, coming over to talk to me. We're having a good convo, I'm kinoing well, and I can tell she's into me when that exact same dude comes back to the table and stands next to that girl to chat her up.

Like wtf, where's the bro code here? Again, maybe you could just say he had better game than me, but it's the fact that I have to deal with this bullshit in the first place that is what gets to me. When it comes to OLD, it's just you and the girl. There aren't other guys entering the convo you're having with her.

Anyway, the girl gives him some attention, but isn't too enthused by him and he eventually leaves so I'm able to continue talking to her. There's some good flirting and I try to kiss her by saying "did you know that Canadians are the best kissers?" to which she decides to play hard to get by suggesting that she's not going to kiss me until I cook her dinner (something I said I would do for her earlier in the convo).

She eventually asks me for my number and I enter it in her phone as "my name mi amor ❤️" and we do a kiss on the cheek goodbye as she returns to find her friends. Maybe I should have gotten her number instead, but when I asked for her IG, she said she doesn't give it out until we've gone on a date. Okay whatever, she seemed interested so I didn't push for anything else and left it as is.

My buddy eventually goes home as he is dogsitting and needs to walk the dog so I'm now on my own. I decide to head downstairs to the dancefloor at that point to try my luck there. I also talked to some other people at the table before I do so (as well as before I talked to the 8), but these were with people I wasn't trying to game so no need to go into detail about that here.

I go downstairs and find one of the guys I met at the table earlier and dance near him and his friends. Not long after, these two 8s approach me on the dancefloor and start talking to me (remember, I'm a gringo in LATAM + at a social event where being approached is common - hence why social game can be so good.).

One of them is more into me than the other and we're super close as we chat. Not even 1 minute into our convo she goes, what do you think about doing a three-way kiss with me and my friend? Of course I'm like yeah let's do it, but for some reason her friend isn't into the idea and doesn't want to kiss me.

The other girl still makes out with me on the dancefloor regardless and we dance for a bit before she says they're going to go upstairs to get some air and I say sure sounds good. After they leave, I notice the original 8 who didn't want to kiss me earlier in the night at the table grinding and making out with another dude on the dancefloor, to which I'm like wtf, she just told me she doesn't want to kiss me, but here she is making out with someone else.

Again, maybe the dude just had better game or maybe she was just in a different mood on the dancefloor vs the social area where she met me, but it was just some more bullshit that annoyed me and another part of the night that inspired this post.

Anyway, I stick around on the dancefloor a little more, but don't see anyone else on the dancefloor that I feel like approaching so I decide to go back upstairs to the social area again to see what's up. When I get there, I see the two 8s from before chatting with some other dudes, to which I leave them alone to do so as that's fair game and I wasn't attached to them anyway.

I walk around to see if there's anyone I want to approach, but I don't really see anyone. However, as I'm heading to the stairs, I bump into this stunning 9 who I had this almost instant connection with as soon as we locked eyes. We start talking and it's going pretty well until this random dude shows up to introduce himself to me.

It seems like he already knows the girl as he doesn't introduce himself to her, but as we're shaking hands, he decides to try to physically pull me away from the girl. Again, more bullshit.

The girl actually tells him to give us a moment and he obliges, going back to his table and letting me chat to her some more. She tells me she doesn't like how possessive he is, but that she really likes the chemistry that she and I have and that she would like to leave the club with me.

I'm a little skeptical since it all happened so fast, but I go with it since she's a total babe. I tell her okay, let's get out of here then to which she says she can't because she has to talk to her friend first and also do it unnoticed by the possessive guy. I ask her how she plans to do that.

She tells me to stick around the area and that she'll give me a sign that it's time to leave so that I can meet her downstairs. I ask her why she doesn't just text me when she wants to leave and she says it's because she lost her phone and doesn't have one at the moment. She offers to give me her friend's number, but I didn't really understand what I would do with it so I said nah it's fine, let's do the signal thing.

I then leave her to let her go back with the possessive guy and find a place to chill that's within eyesight of her so I can catch her signal when she's ready. I assumed she would give me a sign within the next 10 minutes or so, but more than 30 minutes pass and still no sign from her. She is looking at me fairly often, but isn't making the move I thought she would.

Eventually, they close the upstairs social area and tell everyone they need to head downstairs to the dancefloor. The possessive guy goes to the bathroom so I take the opportunity to ask her what's going on to which she replies she's still working on it. I confirm the exact signal that she should give me and we all go downstairs (separately) to the dancefloor.

I find a spot where I'm again, within eyesight of her, and start dancing there. 15 more minutes pass and still no signal from her, despite her looking at me fairly often. I tell the friend I made earlier in the night about the situation and he tells me to leave it and try to find another girl. It wasn't easy to give up on her, but I took his advice and decided to see what else was around.

I found the two 8s from before and tried dancing with the one that I kissed earlier, but she seemed to have lost interest and didn't spend too much time dancing with me so I gave up on them and scoured some more. I get approached by a 6 and an 8 and I can tell the 6 is super into me, but I was not into her.

Unfortunately, the 8 isn't too receptive to my advances since I guess she was just backing up the 6 in talking to me so eventually they move on as the 6 realizes I'm not interested.

I'm again just dancing on my own when a 7 approaches me to start grinding on me. I'm on the fence about whether I want to game her as I felt like I could get better than her, but it was also getting late so I was just kinda seeing where it was going.

As she's grinding on me, the 9 passes us to go to the bathroom. I try to chat to her, but she doesn't hear me. I wasn't sure if she was intentionally ignoring me or just didn't see me, but I confirmed it was the former when she came back from the bathroom and didn't even make eye contact with me.

I don't know if it's because she saw me talking to / dancing with other girls instead of waiting for her or she just changed her mind about the possessive guy or what, but that ended up being a total waste of time for me. Another part of the night that inspired this post.

Anyway, once it was established that the 9 was out of the picture, I decided to just tell the 7 that I was going to take her home with me as I had no more social battery left to try to game more girls at that point to which she agreed and we made our way back to my place.

I honestly didn't give a fuck if she would have said no to coming back to mine, but it was a pretty good hookup despite her not being hotter then I was hoping for from that night. However, after she left, I was not able to sleep very well and woke up super early, some more bullshit from the night.

Anyway, all of this just reinforced to me that OLD is the absolute superior form of game as there is so much less bullshit I have to deal with when it comes to dating apps. Yes, they have their own problems (like the girl I made plans to cook dinner for as a first date last week who ghosted me after she asked where we would be meeting, presumably because she chickened out), but overall, they are just so much more reliable and stress free.

Of course, this is assuming that you've maximized your attractiveness, optimized your OLD profile, and developed a good routine for getting dates, but since I have done all that, it's just so much better than any other form of game. Granted, I've heard good things about daygame too, but I don't practice it too much so I can't comment on it. I just get so many options from OLD that I don't need to practice daygame anyway.

Anyway, maybe you'll read this and think "this dude just sucks at night game" and maybe you're even right about that as I am a little rusty since I've mainly been using OLD since covid to get girls, but rusty or not, it doesn't change how much random bullshit can occur on a night out compared to how streamlined things can be when you got your OLD shit figured out.

At least, that's how I see things. I'm sure there are some guys out there who will say the opposite and tell me they have their night game routine streamlined as well, but that doesn't change the fact that you gotta invest so much time and energy to get results in night game vs doing some swiping and chatting from the comfort of your own home. OLD is just so much more efficient, all things considered.

But what do I know? Maybe I'm just a 31 year old dude who starts getting tired at 9pm and usually goes to sleep at 11pm (true story) so OLD is just objectively the better form of game for me 🤷. Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

TL;DR at the end

So I've been nomading around Latin America for the past year and thought I'd share my experience and thoughts on the different countries/cities that I've spent some time in when it comes to dating because while everyone knows that LATAM is game on easy mode, it still varies a decent amount between countries/cities so if you're considering heading down there, it's good to know what to expect.

The countries that I will talk about are Argentina, Brazil, Mexico, Paraguay, and Uruguay. If you're wondering why I haven't done Colombia, it's mostly because of all the shit I hear about people getting drugged (scoped) and robbed in Medellin by girls they meet on dating apps and while I have friends who have gone and been fine, I'm just playing it safe for now and sticking to other countries.

For reference, I'm white, speak fluent spanish + learned portuguese, have maximized my attractiveness, and optimized my online dating profile so all that definitely impacts my results. If you're a minority, only speak english, haven't worked on yourself, or are trying to game with a shitty OLD profile, YMMV so keep that in mind when reading this (although many women had some level of english too so that one isn't as big of a problem).

I'll go in alphabetical order for this so let's start with:

###Argentina

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I spent a couple months in Buenos Aires, using it as a base to explore the rest of Argentina. It's quite an inexpensive city since the country is going through some rough economic inflation so going on dates won't break the bank for the most part. I had pretty good success there, averaging about 8 different girls per month around a 7.7/10 in looks (personal ranking).

Most of them came from apps, but a few also came from social events, specifically Mundo Lingo which is a language exchange event where the premise is to go and practice different languages while meeting new people. In reality, most people just go to flirt and make friends as there are plenty of people who show up only speaking one language too.

I didn't try any daygame there and nightlife started way too late for me to want to test out night game so it was purely apps and social events that I used to meet women. That's also something to keep in mind with Argentina - people eat and drink late so a lot of dates will start after 9/10pm and often, girls will even think you're inviting them out for dinner around that time as opposed to just drinks since that's their normal dinnertime.

Another thing to note is that since most Argentinians have a lot of European blood, it actually kinda takes away from the gringo advantage since you blend in a lot more with the locals as a lot of them are also white. In fact, I was often mistaken for being Argentinian while I was there. However, interest did increase when they realized I was actually foreign.

Overall though, Argentina was pretty solid when it comes to dating. For living though, I personally didn't really enjoy Buenos Aires for several reasons. I preferred Mendoza, which also had its fair share of attractive women (who also seemed easier too, probably due to less foreign competition). If you're only trying to fuck though, then there are better places for that so keep on reading.

###Brazil

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Brazil was a bit of a mixed bag. Some cities were a lot easier than others which is part of what inspired this post. For instance, Sao Paulo was great for dating. Lots of very attractive women who are fairly easy, a decent amount of them being willing to do house dates. I had great success there as well, averaging 10.5 women per month around an 8/10, usually with the apps, but also at MultiLingo - SP's version of MundoLingo.

Rio, on the other hand, was a lot more difficult to game in. I attribute this to a mix of the city having so many things to do and there being a lot of competition from other foreigners. Sao Paulo is the biggest city, but fewer foreigners travel there because it's really just a concrete jungle, making you stand out a lot more. However in Rio, you're just another one of the many gringos there so girls are overall less thirsty for you. It's also super expensive (although SP is also a little pricey too tbf).

I also spent some time in Salvador too which surprisingly, was even more difficult than Rio was. I thought it would be easy pickings due to way fewer foreigners going there than Rio and even SP, but I struggled there. Mostly because the city is dead during the week and people there have no work-life balance, making it so they could only go out on weekends (hence limiting my potential date opportunities). There are also no social events similar to Mundo Lingo in Rio to take advantage of either.

So as a result, in Rio, I averaged only 6 girls per month at a 7.9/10 and in Salvador, I did 9 in my one month there, but at an average of 7.5/10, mostly because I was going through a dry streak when I first got there and lowered my standards a bit as a result. The city itself also simply doesn't have as many attractive women in general so I had to if I wanted to get some action. I even tried some daygame in both cities, but Brazilian women didn't seem to be too receptive to it, probably because of how many hustlers there are on the streets in Brazil always approaching people.

I also visited some other cities in Brazil, but similar to Salvador, the quality wasn't always that high in them. My theory is that the most attractive/successful women leave most of these medium-sized cities as soon as they can after graduating university and go to either Sao Paulo or Rio for their careers. So yeah, overall, Brazil can be a great country for dating, provided you're in the right place (which is Sao Paulo in my opinion).

###Mexico

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Mexico is one of my favourite countries to both visit and game in. In total, I've spent 7 months in Mexico so I've gotten a pretty good feel for the country by now. It's full of awesome places to visit and the locals are really nice (at least, in the non-touristy areas). While I've traveled around a lot and gamed in multiple cities within Mexico, the two main cities I will talk about are Mexico City and Playa Del Carmen.

Mexico City is an awesome city to date in. Similar to Sao Paulo, it's kinda just a concrete jungle so there's not all that much to do nature-wise, but that plays to your benefit when dating as it makes girls a lot more interested in meeting you. Also, while the foreign population has been growing as of late, it doesn't seem to have an effect on your dating prospects re: competition. For instance, my best month of game ever was 16 different women, 13 of which I met in Mexico City.

The women there are gringo-crazy and another way I know this is by the fact that I was matching influencers on the apps. I also matched some in Sao Paulo, but Mexico City was next level as I even matched and chatted with one girl who had 1.5m followers. To be able to match women like that, you really need to be high-value and in Mexico City, I definitely am. The women are also quite easy, with many of them willing to come straight over to my place for the first date.

Playa Del Carmen, on the other hand, is quite a different experience. Since it's a completely touristic city, the gringo advantage simply isn't as strong there. You're competing with tons of other foreigners so you're nothing special compared to Mexico City. Like Rio, I only managed to get an average of 6 girls per month there at 7.9/10 using mainly dating apps and social events.

That being said though, the city is heaven for daygame & night game. I personally didn't do much myself while I was there, but I know plenty of guys who do and they all say the same thing - PDC is daygame heaven. The reason being because it's always full of tourists passing through looking to have a good time. This means the girls you approach are a lot more receptive than in other places. At the time, I relied a lot more on dating apps so I didn't approach as much as I would have liked, but next time I'm in town, it's definitely something I'm going to start doing.

However, Mexico City is still a lot more near and dear to my heart as similar to Sao Paulo, I averaged 10.5 girls per month at 8/10 there. Unfortunately though, one thing that isn't ideal about either city is the cost of living. Gentrification due to foreigners like me has risen those costs up a decent amount so rent in both places can be more than you expect. Overall though, Mexico is a great country for dating, especially since it's so easy and cheap to get to from the rest of North America.

###Paraguay & Uruguay

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Okay, now we're going off the beaten path a bit with these next two, but hear me out. First off, Paraguay is absolute dating heaven. I'm currently here now and while I haven't spent nearly as much time here as I have in the other countries mentioned above, I can tell you that if you want game on the absolute easiest mode possible, go to Paraguay.

You've probably never even thought of visiting Paraguay and I don't blame you for it, the country doesn't really have any interesting tourist attractions, but that's exactly what makes it so amazing for dating. The women here are bored out of their minds with nothing to do and there is literally no competition from other foreigners. In other words, if you show up as a foreigner with a good profile, it's like shooting fish in a barrel.

I have never gotten so many likes on the apps as I do in Asuncion. Here, I have an endless selection of women to choose from to meet and not only that, they are all so thirsty that I don't even need to take the majority of them out. 90% of them have no issue with coming over to my place for the first date to cook, watch a movie, share some wine, or whatever the excuse is. I am consistently meeting with different women at least twice a day, multiple times a week. In fact, it's been 3 days since I got here and have already met with 6 women, 4 of which I fucked.

And even if I do need to take them out on a date, the country is so cheap that my wallet barely feels it. In addition, the quality is very high. The women in Asuncion are super attractive and take very good care of themselves whereas the local men simply don't give a shit which also contributes to how thirsty the women are for foreign guys. And similar to Mexico City and Sao Paulo, I was even matching with local influencers too so yeah, put Paraguay on your list if you want to fuck.

As for Uruguay, I only spent a weekend there so my perspective is fairly limited, but from my experience, you do have a gringo advantage, but the quality of women there isn't as high as other places. Also, the country is one of the most expensive in Latin America so it's simply not worth it. It's kinda like a more expensive version of Paraguay with lower quality women since there's also very little to see or do there from a tourist perspective either. In other words, you're better off sticking to Paraguay.

###Final Thoughts

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Before all the haters come at me trying to invalidate me by calling me a passport bro or saying LATAM doesn't count or whatever else, I'm not posting this because I'm trying to brag or school people or something. I'm merely sharing my dating experience in these different countries for anyone who might be interested in hearing about it and learning from it. Kinda like an extended field report.

Also, I had great success in Canada & the US as well before I started nomading in LATAM anyway. In fact, over 100 of all my lays come from those two countries alone and I have no issue dating in them (contrary to passport bros who complain about western dating). I'm just of the mindset that if you can make your life cheaper and easier, why wouldn't you? At the end of the day, I'm just lucky enough to have a fully remote job that allows me to do it.

TL;DR - LATAM is easy mode, but some places are easier than others. The easiest (that I've experienced) are Asuncion, Mexico City, and Sao Paulo, all of which are concrete jungle-type cities with not much competition and not much else going on, which contributes to how easy it is to pick up women in them. On the other hand, cities like Rio and Playa Del Carmen can be tougher to game in as women have a lot more to choose from, both with regards to attractive men as well as things to do in general.

Anyone else there who can corroborate this experience? Or can provide insight into other parts of LATAM? Would be curious to hear about it.

Saw this tweet today and thought I'd share it as a reminder to all of you that your hobbies make up a big part of your overall attractiveness and that regularly playing video games will negatively affect your dating life.

I say this as someone who regularly played video games throughout my teenage years and into my early 20s (100k gamerscore on Xbox over here).

Wanna know how many girls I was getting in those years?

Maybe an average of 1 or 2 per year at most if I was lucky.

And how many am I getting now?

Feel free to look through my post history to get an idea.

Fact of the matter is that women care about this shit. And it's not just video games, pretty much any nerdy/solitary hobby is going to negatively affect your dating life.

Other hobbies listed in that tweet are:

• Collecting figurines
• Magic tricks
• Online trolling
• Gambling
• Building model trains
• Taxidermy
• Comic book collecting
• Bird watching

Not all of them are nerdy, some of them are just weird (taxidermy), toxic (online trolling & gambling), or just plain boring (bird watching).

Now, am I saying that there is something wrong with these hobbies?

Of course not. As long as you are not hurting yourself or other people, there is nothing wrong with finding your happiness in these types of hobbies (aside from online trolling & gambling which are definitely toxic as you actively hurt yourself and others doing them).

###However, if your goal is to get women, you need to start cutting these hobbies out of your life.

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Most women simply do not find them attractive and will disqualify you as soon as they find out you partake in them. And sometimes, they don't even need to find out as they can tell just by looking at you or talking to you for a bit. That's how much these types of hobbies seep into your overall demeanour.

Your question now may be:

Well what are some attractive hobbies then?

Generally, hobbies where you are being social with both men and women are seen as highly attractive by women. As well as hobbies that promote physical fitness or mental growth and hobbies that showcase status or prowess in something they value (like music or food).

For instance:

~ Dancing (salsa & bachata are good ones to learn and also great for meeting women)

~ Traveling (showcases status & adventure + means you have lots of cool experiences to share)

~ Playing an (attractive) instrument (the cliché of women loving guitar players exists for a reason)

~ Outdoor activities (hiking, rock climbing, surfing - promotes physical fitness)

~ Team sports (softball & volleyball are great low-effort co-ed options that also give you opportunities to meet women)

~ Photography (women love taking pictures so they love men who know how to take good pictures - also a way to meet some of the most attractive women too)

~ Working out (promotes physical fitness and can also be a way to meet attractive women)

~ Cooking (women love a man who knows how to cook well)

###So if you're serious about improving your chances with women, then drop the controller and pick up one or more of the hobbies I just listed and you will see your dating life change before your eyes.

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And if you take the extra step to showcase these hobbies with good pictures & videos of you performing them on your Instagram, then you will see your results skyrocket even more.

I personally replaced video games with traveling, photography, and volleyball and my dating life has been amazing ever since.

The question now is, what are you going to do?

I'm writing this post off after coming off a recent fling I had with another influencer which made me come to the realization that I don't really enjoy the influencer dating experience and thought I'd share my reasons why (+ some other anecdotes on the topic).

I've dated a few influencers and OF girls (including them in this since they're similar in many ways) in my seduction journey so I've had a decent amount of experience with them and every time I have, there's been something about them that kinda ruined it for me.

In my latest experience, she was specifically a vegan influencer (not even with that many followers, only 10k, but enough to get free meals at restaurants, free groceries, and other related perks - although I don't think she actually made money off it, just got free stuff).

The free stuff was definitely a cool perk of dating her, but was it worth having to deal with the rest of the influencer BS? I don't think so. What BS, you wonder?

Well first off, they're always thinking about content. They have to, they constantly need to upload to stay relevant. This means you often have to play the role of cameraman and record multiple takes of them doing random shit like in the case of the vegan influencer: walking into a restaurant, taking bites of food, etc.

You can't just enjoy a moment without it being about potential content. And even if you're not recording content for her, she's spending her time editing existing content. Or checking her DMs, responding to brands, etc etc. It all ends up being a bit too much.

Then there's the personality aspect too, specifically when talking about OF girls and thot influencers (although I've noticed similar personality traits in other types of influencers too).

Essentially, these girls require constant validation and will react extremely poorly to any type of criticism. And I'm not even talking about actual criticism, but mundane things like simply suggesting a better way of doing things.

Maybe it's not an influencer-specific trait, but I just remember this 50k OF girl I dated back in January who got super upset with me whenever I'd make any type of mundane criticism or suggestion, claiming that I was always complaining.

I honestly believe it was a trigger for her that stemmed from childhood trauma, specifically her never being good enough for her parents, which may also explain the reason she got into OF and body enhancements in the first place, to be honest.

Another shitty personality trait they tend to have is that they always think of themselves as better than others and don't seem capable of humility.

For instance, the vegan girl would often announce to servers at restaurants that she was a vegan influencer and then complain to me afterwards if the restaurant didn't offer the food to us for free in exchange for posting about it.

It always made me cringe. It's like ok shoot your shot, but don't expect everyone to play ball or get upset about it when they don't.

Then there's the influencers who are legit making money from influencing, like the 200k woman in tech influencer I dated earlier this year who, despite making a lot more money than me due to her success, still expected me to basically pay for everything for her because she believed in "traditional masculine and feminine roles".

In other words, she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. And maybe this is more of a personal thing since people will have different opinions on this, but it really struck me the wrong way that she was essentially expecting me to be her caretaker without really providing all that much in return.

So yeah, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. These influencers/OF girls may be hot, but they're often not worth all the BS that comes with them. Good for a night a two, but any more than that and you're just bringing unnecessary stress into your life.

At least, that's been my experience. Anyone else out there with similar stories?

Everyone's got their own definitions for the different skills needed to have a successful dating life but I thought I would share the ones that I've identified after having slept with 300+ women over the years.

1.) Maximizing your attractiveness

This may seem like common sense, but I've seen a lot of guys neglect this and still try to pick up girls. Of course, it doesn't hurt to work on your social skills while you're in the process of maximizing your attractiveness, but you should really be working towards being the most attractive version of yourself you can be before trying to game women or else you will get rejected more often than necessary.

And remember, your attractiveness doesn't only refer to how good-looking your face is. It refers to everything from physical traits like your body (the fitter, the better), your hair and clothing styles, and your hygiene and grooming, to non-physical traits like your status, your inner game, and your energy/vibe.

Self-improvement is a fundamental part of seduction and you should always be working towards being the most attractive version of yourself you can be because not only will it help you with women, it will also help you in every other facet of your life too.

2.) Finding and approaching women

Of course, being the most attractive version of yourself isn't going to do much for you if you aren't putting yourself in positions to meet women. Daygame, night game, social game, and online dating are the main avenues used and each of them has their pros and cons, but if you really want to maximize your opportunities, you should be utilizing a good mix of them.

~ Daygame is great for getting chances with high quality women who would normally brush you off in night game or would swipe left on you on the dating apps.

~ Night game is great for getting multiple chances with women in one night and for quick physical escalation + same-night lays.

~ Social game is great for building up your social skills + social circle and also for finding girls that have similar interests to you.

~ Online dating is great for finding plenty of girls to go on dates with and sometimes even hook up with, all from the comfort of your couch.

3.) Having good text game + setting up dates

A lot of PUA gurus will neglect text game, claiming you should only be texting for logistics, but in this day and age, if you have shitty text game, you will be left behind.

The main avenue I use to text is Instagram since it provides me with plenty of opportunities to build and maintain attraction, but even if you're not on IG, getting good at texting is an important skill to prevent flaking and maintain interest.

Girls place high value on how well you text and will lose interest in you and/or reject you if you are too eager or the opposite, too unavailable. It's a balance that you have to learn through trial and error, but once you learn it, you will experience much fewer flakes and ghostings.

If you get really good at it, you can even get girls to send you nudes before you've ever even met them in person, offer to host you in their city without ever even spoken on the phone, or practically fall in love with you and fuck within the first 10 minutes of meeting each other after having matched 2 years prior, but never having met back then since you moved away right after (true story).

4.) Having good dates

Good date game is key if you want to bring girls back to yours and/or see them again for a second date. Lots of guys who are able to get matches and even dates end up failing once they're on the date itself because they fail to create that spark and/or build a connection with the girl, leading to an awkward hug at the end of it and then never speaking again.

The key to good dates is to be confident, but chill. Banter and teasing are super important, but so is good listening and showing that you "get" her. And contrary to popular belief, physical escalation during the date isn't actually necessary for it to go well and in some cases, can backfire if it's not well-calibrated.

That being said, you should always be aiming to have her come back to your place at the end of the first date and if she declines, then you should be getting a kiss-close at minimum. Don't waste your own time when more often than not, the girl wants you to make a move to invite her over (remember, girls want sex too).

Once you've optimized your date game though, then it will be rare that a woman doesn't want to see you again. I've personally gotten to a point where 90% of my dates go well and the only times I don't see her again is because I wasn't as interested in her as I initially thought (or I just don't have time because I'm trying to meet other girls).

5.) Successfully physically escalating to sex

The game isn't over once she's at your place though. You still need to have smooth physical escalation to successfully seduce her. A lot of guys will get so close to the finish line, but then fail because they get nervous, they don't make a move, or they are poorly calibrated in their escalation.

I know I've been that guy before. I remember a time in the early days of my seduction journey when I had a girl come over to watch a movie and then was too afraid to make a move on her even though she was lying in my bed with me watching this movie. She left an hour into it out of boredom (I'm sure every guy has a story like this).

Be bold, be confident, and learn to turn her on through touch and foreplay. Internalize the idea that if she has come over to your place, especially after a date, it means she wants you to make a move. And you need to be the one to make that move because she sure as hell won't.

Once you've mastered all 5 pillars, your dating life will be what teenage you always wanted it to be. At least, that's what happened to me.

Anything I missed?

Everyone's got their own definitions for the different skills needed to have a successful dating life but I thought I would share the ones that I've identified after having slept with 300+ women over the years.

1.) Maximizing your attractiveness

This may seem like common sense, but I've seen a lot of guys neglect this and still try to pick up girls. Of course, it doesn't hurt to work on your social skills while you're in the process of maximizing your attractiveness, but you should really be working towards being the most attractive version of yourself you can be before trying to game women or else you will get rejected more often than necessary.

And remember, your attractiveness doesn't only refer to how good-looking your face is. It refers to everything from physical traits like your body (the fitter, the better), your hair and clothing styles, and your hygiene and grooming, to non-physical traits like your status, your inner game, and your energy/vibe.

Self-improvement is a fundamental part of seduction and you should always be working towards being the most attractive version of yourself you can be because not only will it help you with women, it will also help you in every other facet of your life too.

2.) Finding and approaching women

Of course, being the most attractive version of yourself isn't going to do much for you if you aren't putting yourself in positions to meet women. Daygame, night game, social game, and online dating are the main avenues used and each of them has their pros and cons, but if you really want to maximize your opportunities, you should be utilizing a good mix of them.

~ Daygame is great for getting chances with high quality women who would normally brush you off in night game or would swipe left on you on the dating apps.

~ Night game is great for getting multiple chances with women in one night and for quick physical escalation + same-night lays.

~ Social game is great for building up your social skills + social circle and also for finding girls that have similar interests to you.

~ Online dating is great for finding plenty of girls to go on dates with and sometimes even hook up with, all from the comfort of your couch.

3.) Having good text game + setting up dates

A lot of PUA gurus will neglect text game, claiming you should only be texting for logistics, but in this day and age, if you have shitty text game, you will be left behind.

The main avenue I use to text is Instagram since it provides me with plenty of opportunities to build and maintain attraction, but even if you're not on IG, getting good at texting is an important skill to prevent flaking and maintain interest.

Girls place high value on how well you text and will lose interest in you and/or reject you if you are too eager or the opposite, too unavailable. It's a balance that you have to learn through trial and error, but once you learn it, you will experience much fewer flakes and ghostings.

If you get really good at it, you can even get girls to send you nudes before you've ever even met them in person, offer to host you in their city without ever even spoken on the phone, or practically fall in love with you and fuck within the first 10 minutes of meeting each other after having matched 2 years prior, but never having met back then since you moved away right after (true story).

4.) Having good dates

Good date game is key if you want to bring girls back to yours and/or see them again for a second date. Lots of guys who are able to get matches and even dates end up failing once they're on the date itself because they fail to create that spark and/or build a connection with the girl, leading to an awkward hug at the end of it and then never speaking again.

The key to good dates is to be confident, but chill. Banter and teasing are super important, but so is good listening and showing that you "get" her. And contrary to popular belief, physical escalation during the date isn't actually necessary for it to go well and in some cases, can backfire if it's not well-calibrated.

That being said, you should always be aiming to have her come back to your place at the end of the first date and if she declines, then you should be getting a kiss-close at minimum. Don't waste your own time when more often than not, the girl wants you to make a move to invite her over (remember, girls want sex too).

Once you've optimized your date game though, then it will be rare that a woman doesn't want to see you again. I've personally gotten to a point where 90% of my dates go well and the only times I don't see her again is because I wasn't as interested in her as I initially thought (or I just don't have time because I'm trying to meet other girls).

5.) Successfully physically escalating to sex

The game isn't over once she's at your place though. You still need to have smooth physical escalation to successfully seduce her. A lot of guys will get so close to the finish line, but then fail because they get nervous, they don't make a move, or they are poorly calibrated in their escalation.

I know I've been that guy before. I remember a time in the early days of my seduction journey when I had a girl come over to watch a movie and then was too afraid to make a move on her even though she was lying in my bed with me watching this movie. She left an hour into it out of boredom (I'm sure every guy has a story like this).

Be bold, be confident, and learn to turn her on through touch and foreplay. Internalize the idea that if she has come over to your place, especially after a date, it means she wants you to make a move. And you need to be the one to make that move because she sure as hell won't.

Once you've mastered all 5 pillars, your dating life will be what teenage you always wanted it to be. At least, that's what happened to me.

Anything I missed?

Women will often give you the excuse of not having felt “chemistry” or “a spark” between you two after a first date that didn’t go anywhere (that’s if they don’t ghost you instead). However, the truth of the matter is that these things don’t actually exist.

Or rather, they do, but in the form of comfort and rapport. In other words, if a girl tells you that she didn’t feel chemistry or a spark between you two after a first date, all it means is that you didn’t do a good enough job of building comfort and rapport with her on it.

For a girl to feel that “chemistry” or “spark”, she needs to both feel comfortable with you as well as connected to you on a deeper level. These things are interconnected too. For instance, she won’t open up to you if she doesn’t feel comfortable with you so it’s always build comfort first, then rapport.

Therefore, if you want to have consistently good first dates, you need to work on conversational skills to the point where you are making women feel comfortable enough to open up to you and then build connections with her past the surface level. If you do this well enough, you will never have another bad date again.

This also has nothing to do with physical escalation either. You can build enough comfort and rapport through conversation that she’s willing to come back to yours at the end of a first date without you ever having physically touched her aside from the initial hug at the start of the date. That’s how powerful good conversational skills can be (although a little physical touch can be effective if done well, I’m just saying it’s not necessary). More info

So how do you effectively and consistently build comfort and rapport on dates?

This post was inspired by u/Total_Obligation_371’s recent post on the topic which you should definitely check out because it completely outlines the framework for ensuring every single one of your first dates goes well, but here’s a little summary:

First things first, establish familiarity. Don’t wait for her at the table, wait for her in front of the bar/restaurant, then go in together. And when you first see her, don’t say “nice to meet you”, say “nice to see you”. Similarly, never shake her hand, always go for the hug instead.

These are all little subconscious things that add up in establishing that familiarity and building that comfort. Essentially, the key is to act like this isn’t the first time you guys are meeting in person (if you met online or something), to make it seem like you’ve already met before. And even if you have already met before, these things go a long way in avoiding any awkwardness and establishing that you guys should be comfortable with each other.

Finally, as you’re walking to your table or once you’ve sat down, start by asking her about her day/week/weekend, depending on the context. For instance, if you’ve already been chatting via text and already talked about each others’ weeks/weekends, stick to asking her about her day, but if you haven’t, ask about her weekend if it’s Sunday or Monday and her week if it’s any other day.

This question is one that friends or family members would ask her and since you’re asking it, it subconsciously pushes you further away from being a “stranger” and closer to being someone she trusts. It also helps to push you away from the dreaded “interview mode” situation that bad dates often end up in as it’s a natural way to segue into ‘getting to know you’ questions.

For instance, she might say “oh you know just work”, to which you can naturally respond “what is it you do for work?”. Or she might say “oh just took it easy and watched some netflix”, to which you can naturally respond “oh what did you watch?”.

The next step at this point is to begin the ‘getting to know you’ phase by bantering. What is banter? It’s fun, playful, and harmless teasing. Showing that you can effectively banter accomplishes a few different goals:

~ For one, it establishes that you’re not just another nice guy yes man who thinks sucking up to her at every possible moment is what’s going to earn you her respect. This is where a lot of guys fail on their dates and end up getting friendzoned as a result. You need to be willing to make light, harmless jabs at her if you want her to take you seriously as a potential sexual partner (this could be a whole post of its own).

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should be actually rude or mean to her, it just means you should be able to challenge her in a fun and playful way to show that you are able to form independent thoughts and aren’t afraid to voice them, but that you can also do it tactfully without actually starting an argument or debate about it.

~ It also displays confidence, which helps in building attraction since it shows that you’re not afraid of what she might think by you taking these light jabs at her. That IDGAF attitude is huge in building attraction with women since it means you’re more of a challenge to them. There’s a reason nice guys finish last and that’s because they’re boring AF. Women want a man who isn’t afraid to take risks, not one who is too afraid to lose her that he won’t dare say anything that might upset her.

~ It also makes the conversation fun and interesting. Think of how boring the interview-style dates are where you ask a normal question about themselves, get a normal answer, give your own normal answer, then ask another question about themselves, rinsing and repeating this formula. This is what women mean when they say they “didn’t feel a spark” or “didn’t feel any chemistry”. It has nothing to do with anything abstract like the words “chemistry” and “spark” imply, it has everything to do with your conversational skills.

~ It also shows that you have a sense of humour, which is another attractive trait for women. By being able to banter with her about the things she says, it shows that you have wit and charm. Making her laugh is also a key part to getting her to let her guard down so that she can open up to you later on the date (more on this later).

Note: never tease her about things that are core to who she is as a person or that she cares deeply about. For instance, if she’s a vegan or feminist, avoid teasing her about those topics as it’s likely she will not find it funny. Similarly, if she’s passionate about animal conservation or something, don’t make a joke about how you love hunting. Keep the banter fun and light-hearted. This may take practice to achieve so be prepared to fail at the start.

An example of how I effectively bantered like this on one of my first dates this past month would be when I asked her what she does for work and she told me she works for Nestle. Nestle is a pretty evil company as we all know, so I leaned in on that when I started teasing her about working for them.

One of the things I said was “so you’re the one who has been stealing water from our rivers and lakes!” This got her to laugh since it’s so obviously silly, but still relevant and she played along by saying “yep that’s me”. I followed up with “am I going to go to hell for being with you?” to which she qualified herself to me by saying “noo, I’m not that evil I promise!”. It was truly a fun and playful conversation that could have gone down so many interesting paths.

Getting her to qualify herself to you is huge as it subconsciously implies that she doesn’t fully have you yet and needs to prove herself to you as opposed to you needing to prove yourself to her. This is key in building that attraction with her. Cold reading is also an effective technique that you should be utilizing in making the conversation more fun and interesting.

Anyway, you’ll want to banter like this for a bit as you get to know the basics about each other, after which you transition into rapport-building via deeper conversation topics.

Once you’ve built comfort, it’s time to build rapport. You’ve gotten to know each other a bit and laughed + teased each other while doing it. She feels comfortable with you and her guard is down so now it’s time to build a bridge to her by connecting with her on deeper topics.

You can continue down a previous thread that you already started during your bantering phase or start up a whole new one. Either way, to put it simply, the way you build rapport is by finding out why she is who she is or why she made the decisions she made. In essence, you’re trying to get to the root of what makes her unique. Common basic rapport-building questions to get started include “why did you choose to study x?” or “what made you get into x?”.

It’s very important during this phase that you pay close attention to the things she says to show her that you’re a good listener and also to be able to find things that you can ask follow-up questions about. Don’t just wait for her to finish speaking so that you can say whatever you want to say. If you see an opportunity to relate to her on something she said, be sure to do so, but always acknowledge what she said first to show that you were listening.

You also need to be open and non-judgmental about the things she tells you. Avoid RAPE topics (religion, abortion, politics, and economics) and don’t try to change her mind about anything, even if it’s something you disagree with personally. If you decide to be argumentative with her, you’re going to lose her. You always want to make sure the vibes are good throughout.

A common example of this is astrology, which many women are into whereas most men aren’t. If a girl asks you about your sign, don’t dismiss her by saying “astrology is dumb, I don’t believe in that stuff”. Just appease her by telling her your sign, letting her say what she has to say about it, and then moving on to another topic. Remember, women often think with their emotions so if you make her feel defensive, she’s not going to like you. Focus on making her feel safe and comfortable with you.

If she tells you about something she’s passionate about or a big decision she made that had an effect on her life, reassure her about it by telling her how amazing it is that she’s passionate about it or that she made the right choice. Obviously don’t be disingenuous about it, especially if you truly disagree with it, but definitely be positive about it. Women are drawn to positivity so always make positive assumptions about her and the choices she made, never negative ones.

Don’t be afraid to throw in a little banter every now and then too to keep the conversation light-hearted and not too heavy. Again, just be careful not to tease her about anything that she’s passionate about, is core to her identity, or she opened up to you about under the guise of trusting that you wouldn’t be judging her for it.

The fact that you did this earlier in the interaction is super important at this point too since it shows that you could disagree with her if you wanted to so when you don’t, it makes it even more valuable in her subconscious eyes. And when she’s opening up to you to this extent, it creates this powerful feeling that you guys are closer than just two strangers who have been sitting together for the past hour.

And that’s pretty much it. Do this effectively and she’ll feel so comfortable and close with you that she will want to see you again, whether that’s on a second date or at your place at the end of this date (which is what you should be aiming for). No more will you be getting the dreaded “didn’t feel a spark” message once you start conducting your dates this way.

This was a record January for me as I ended up sleeping with 12 different women this month, smashing my previous personal record of 5 in January to become my 2nd best month of game ever (my best was 16 in October 2022).

Here are some quick stats on my month before I give my insights:

~ In 18 first dates, the girl ended up at mine 13 times (72% of the time) and I got laid 11 of those times (giving me a 61% first date lay rate).

~ Of the 7 times it didn’t end in a lay, I was able to at least kiss-close 4 of them, giving me a positive first date result rate of 83%.

~ Of those 4 kiss-closes, 3 were because she didn’t want to come back to mine on the first date and 1 was because she didn’t want to go any further after coming back to mine.

~ Of the 3 times it didn’t end in anything, 2 of them were because she was giving me relationship vibes so I didn’t even bother making a move whereas the last one was because she wanted to take things slow so she rejected my kiss (at mine).

~ I also went on 6 second dates, 2 third dates, and 1 fourth date during this month.

~ All of the second dates were with women I had slept with on the first date aside from one whom I only kiss-closed. That date also only ended in a kiss-close as she wanted to take things slow with me. I think I was going too fast with her in general as she then ghosted me when I tried to schedule a third.

~ The most common way I met these girls was dating apps (16). The other two girls I met on a local Facebook group (the one who ghosted me after 2 dates) and at a social event (the one who made it to 4 dates).

~ The most common type of first date I went on was drinks at a bar with 9. This had a lay rate of 67% and a positive first date result rate of 89%.

~ The second most common was drinks at mine with 4. Surprisingly, not all of them ended in a lay as one of them was the girl that rejected my kiss because she wanted to take things slow. She had just gotten out of a really long relationship and was new to the dating scene so she was still learning how it all worked.

~ The final 5 were 2 dinner dates (1 kiss-close, 1 was a girl who gave relationship vibes), 2 coffee dates (1 lay, 1 kiss-close), and a girl that had actually come to visit me from another city (lay) - she stayed with me for a weekend.

~ Out of 31 days in January, only 7 were spent without ever meeting up with a girl at some point during the day. I usually hung out with friends or went to a social event on those occasions.

~ My best streak this month was 7 days of sex in a row with 5 different girls. My best day was 3 different lays in one day (slept over at a girl’s place the night before so I had morning sex, then had a girl come over in the afternoon, then met up with a girl in the evening for drinks).

Here are some of my insights as I look back on these results:

1.) Dating apps continue to be the main source of my leads by a large extent. They’re just so much more convenient than other types of game given how much volume you can have without ever leaving your house, which is ideal especially if you work Monday to Friday like I do. Just gotta prioritize which girls you want to meet first and plan accordingly.

A lot of guys struggle with dating apps, but that’s mainly because they haven’t maximized their attractiveness and/or built a winning profile. Dating apps are inherently superficial so you really need to put your best foot forward both physically and digitally if you want to succeed.

2.) Instagram is a huge part of my game as well as I almost always get the girl’s IG as opposed to her number. The social proof my profile gives off is key in building the trust and comfort needed for women to be down to come straight over to mine without ever meeting in public first.

For the others, it’s key in maintaining interest over longer periods of time since there are only so many days of the week available to meet women so I have to put some off for days/weeks sometimes. In fact, the girl who came to visit me for a weekend is a girl I had matched with at the end of 2022 who I had built a connection with over the years via IG to the point where she was dedicated enough to come visit and stay with me once I had moved closer to her country (we fucked in the first 10 minutes once we got to mine from the airport).

3.) I use the same opener, same messaging strategy, and same DTF gauging routine with every single girl I match with. This helps me filter out girls who aren’t invested enough and determine whether she’s comfortable enough to come over straight to mine for the first date or not. I also flirt a lot in the DMs beforehand to make it as obvious as possible that there is romantic intent behind this encounter.

4.) If she isn’t comfortable enough to come straight over for the first date, then my go-to is a drinks date. It’s cheap, sexually conducive, and highly effective. The only reason I did the 2 dinner dates was because I wanted to check out those restaurants anyway so I just invited her along to join me. The only reason much didn’t come out of them was because one girl wasn’t the sex on a first date type and the second I felt like would be more work than she was worth so I didn’t bother making a move.

The coffee dates on the other hand, were mainly for timing reasons - had an open afternoon so wanted to double up and take advantage of that free time. As long as you’ve flirted enough in the DMs beforehand and showcased your romantic intent through touch during the date itself, you can still pull on those too.

5.) In general, aside from the hug at the start of the date (which is always important), I don’t do much physical escalation during it. I also don't intentionally sit next to her as it really doesn't make that much of a difference. I’ve found that as long as you’ve established romantic intent through text beforehand, you don’t really need to do much physical escalation on the date itself to be able to make the pull back to yours at the end of it.

That being said, one thing I’ve been doing as of late to really push the romantic intent is about halfway through the date, I simply hold her hand princess style. This has proven to be super effective in putting her at ease and confirming to her that I am into her, as well as confirming to me that she is also into me (as long as she doesn’t try to remove her hand too quickly).

6.) My go-to way to make the pull is about 1.5 hours into the date, I ask the girl if she likes wine. Then we have a conversation about different types of wine, talking about our favourites. I then ask her if she’d like to share a bottle of my favourite wine with me. If she’s down for first date sex, she’ll say yes.

Whether or not we actually have any wine back at mine depends on how much more warm-up she needs as I always go for the kiss pretty much as soon as we’re in my door. Based on how intensely she kisses me, I either start taking her to the bedroom right then and there or I slow things down and open up the wine to share a glass on the couch before physically escalating again.

That’s all I got right now. Hopefully you guys got some good info from this post. Off to see what February brings me 🫡

This was a record January for me as I ended up sleeping with 12 different women this month, smashing my previous personal record of 5 in January to become my 2nd best month of game ever (my best was 16 in October 2022).

Here are some quick stats on my month before I give my insights:

~ In 18 first dates, the girl ended up at mine 13 times (72% of the time) and I got laid 11 of those times (giving me a 61% first date lay rate).

~ Of the 7 times it didn’t end in a lay, I was able to at least kiss-close 4 of them, giving me a positive first date result rate of 83%.

~ Of those 4 kiss-closes, 3 were because she didn’t want to come back to mine on the first date and 1 was because she didn’t want to go any further after coming back to mine.

~ Of the 3 times it didn’t end in anything, 2 of them were because she was giving me relationship vibes so I didn’t even bother making a move whereas the last one was because she wanted to take things slow so she rejected my kiss (at mine).

~ I also went on 6 second dates, 2 third dates, and 1 fourth date during this month.

~ All of the second dates were with women I had slept with on the first date aside from one whom I only kiss-closed. That date also only ended in a kiss-close as she wanted to take things slow with me. I think I was going too fast with her in general as she then ghosted me when I tried to schedule a third.

~ The most common way I met these girls was dating apps (16). The other two girls I met on a local Facebook group (the one who ghosted me after 2 dates) and at a social event (the one who made it to 4 dates).

~ The most common type of first date I went on was drinks at a bar with 9. This had a lay rate of 67% and a positive first date result rate of 89%.

~ The second most common was drinks at mine with 4. Surprisingly, not all of them ended in a lay as one of them was the girl that rejected my kiss because she wanted to take things slow. She had just gotten out of a really long relationship and was new to the dating scene so she was still learning how it all worked.

~ The final 5 were 2 dinner dates (1 kiss-close, 1 was a girl who gave relationship vibes), 2 coffee dates (1 lay, 1 kiss-close), and a girl that had actually come to visit me from another city (lay) - she stayed with me for a weekend.

~ Out of 31 days in January, only 7 were spent without ever meeting up with a girl at some point during the day. I usually hung out with friends or went to a social event on those occasions.

~ My best streak this month was 7 days of sex in a row with 5 different girls. My best day was 3 different lays in one day (slept over at a girl’s place the night before so I had morning sex, then had a girl come over in the afternoon, then met up with a girl in the evening for drinks).

Here are some of my insights as I look back on these results:

1.) Dating apps continue to be the main source of my leads by a large extent. They’re just so much more convenient than other types of game given how much volume you can have without ever leaving your house, which is ideal especially if you work Monday to Friday like I do. Just gotta prioritize which girls you want to meet first and plan accordingly.

A lot of guys struggle with dating apps, but that’s mainly because they haven’t maximized their attractiveness and/or built a winning profile. Dating apps are inherently superficial so you really need to put your best foot forward both physically and digitally if you want to succeed.

2.) Instagram is a huge part of my game as well as I almost always get the girl’s IG as opposed to her number. The social proof my profile gives off is key in building the trust and comfort needed for women to be down to come straight over to mine without ever meeting in public first.

For the others, it’s key in maintaining interest over longer periods of time since there are only so many days of the week available to meet women so I have to put some off for days/weeks sometimes. In fact, the girl who came to visit me for a weekend is a girl I had matched with at the end of 2022 who I had built a connection with over the years via IG to the point where she was dedicated enough to come visit and stay with me once I had moved closer to her country (we fucked in the first 10 minutes once we got to mine from the airport).

3.) I use the same opener, same messaging strategy, and same DTF gauging routine with every single girl I match with. This helps me filter out girls who aren’t invested enough and determine whether she’s comfortable enough to come over straight to mine for the first date or not. I also flirt a lot in the DMs beforehand to make it as obvious as possible that there is romantic intent behind this encounter.

4.) If she isn’t comfortable enough to come straight over for the first date, then my go-to is a drinks date. It’s cheap, sexually conducive, and highly effective. The only reason I did the 2 dinner dates was because I wanted to check out those restaurants anyway so I just invited her along to join me. The only reason much didn’t come out of them was because one girl wasn’t the sex on a first date type and the second I felt like would be more work than she was worth so I didn’t bother making a move.

The coffee dates on the other hand, were mainly for timing reasons - had an open afternoon so wanted to double up and take advantage of that free time. As long as you’ve flirted enough in the DMs beforehand and showcased your romantic intent through touch during the date itself, you can still pull on those too.

5.) In general, aside from the hug at the start of the date (which is always important), I don’t do much physical escalation during it. I also don't intentionally sit next to her as it really doesn't make that much of a difference. I’ve found that as long as you’ve established romantic intent through text beforehand, you don’t really need to do much physical escalation on the date itself to be able to make the pull back to yours at the end of it.

That being said, one thing I’ve been doing as of late to really push the romantic intent is about halfway through the date, I simply hold her hand princess style. This has proven to be super effective in putting her at ease and confirming to her that I am into her, as well as confirming to me that she is also into me (as long as she doesn’t try to remove her hand too quickly).

6.) My go-to way to make the pull is about 1.5 hours into the date, I ask the girl if she likes wine. Then we have a conversation about different types of wine, talking about our favourites. I then ask her if she’d like to share a bottle of my favourite wine with me. If she’s down for first date sex, she’ll say yes.

Whether or not we actually have any wine back at mine depends on how much more warm-up she needs as I always go for the kiss pretty much as soon as we’re in my door. Based on how intensely she kisses me, I either start taking her to the bedroom right then and there or I slow things down and open up the wine to share a glass on the couch before physically escalating again.

That’s all I got right now. Hopefully you guys got some good info from this post. Off to see what February brings me 🫡

Randomly stumbled across this reel in my IG feed and had to share it here because way too many guys here use the excuse of not being a chad and only being "average" and that's the reason girls don't give them attention.

Bro, you're average by choice. Stop being "average" and work on yourself so that you become above average. Way too many guys are lazy and expect results without putting in any work which is ridiculous, especially when you don't even need to put in all that much work.

Just look at the guy in this reel:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxTLFTIAMgj

Dude was as average as it gets. After upgrading his style, his haircut, and his grooming, he went from a 5 to a 7. If he hit the gym and built up his body too, he'd become a 9 and everyone would start calling him a chad. Dude isn't even white either.

The only person stopping you from achieving success is yourself. If you want to see results, you need to TAKE ACTION.

Randomly stumbled across this reel in my IG feed and had to share it here because way too many guys here use the excuse of not being a chad and only being "average" and that's the reason girls don't give them attention.

Bro, you're average by choice. Stop being "average" and work on yourself so that you become above average. Way too many guys are lazy and expect results without putting in any work which is ridiculous, especially when you don't even need to put in all that much work.

Just look at the guy in this reel:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxTLFTIAMgj

Dude was as average as it gets. After upgrading his style, his haircut, and his grooming, he went from a 5 to a 7. If he hit the gym and built up his body too, he'd become a 9 and everyone would start calling him a chad. Dude isn't even white either.

The only person stopping you from achieving success is yourself. If you want to see results, you need to TAKE ACTION.

Often, a lot of people (myself included) will say that in order to succeed on dating apps and Instagram, you need good pictures, but no one ever really defines what exactly makes a good picture so I’ve decided to write this post to help clear up the confusion.

There are 3 very important criteria when it comes to good OLD/IG pictures:

1 ~ You look attractive in it (50% weight)

2 ~ It tells an interesting story and/or demonstrates some kind of value (30% weight)

3 ~ It’s a high quality/well-composed photo (20% weight)

For a picture to be good, it must meet at least 2 of the 3 criteria with one of them being the first because no matter what, you NEED to look attractive in the photo for it to be a good photo for OLD/IG.

This also means your face needs to be visible in it as well (unless you’re indirectly showing off your body). And no, I’m not talking about being a chad (there is a lot more to your attractiveness than just the shape of your face), I’m talking about your facial expression, your pose, and the lighting in your picture.

A high quality photo that tells an interesting story/demonstrates value, but where you don’t look attractive simply isn’t good enough. This is where a lot of guys fail with their photos because they’ll say “look, it’s a nice photo of me playing the guitar”. Okay, but your pose is stiff, your smile is awkward, and the lighting is unflattering so no, it’s not a good OLD/IG photo.

For instance, here is a good example of a photo that is high quality, tells a story/demonstrates value (he’s running a marathon), and where the guy looks attractive in it. And now here’s a very similar photo that is also high quality, tells the exact same story (also running a marathon), but the guy doesn’t look attractive in it because of his constipated facial expression and mid-stride pose. See the difference?

Just like we all try to aim for 7s or higher when it comes to girls, you should also be trying to aim for 70% weight or higher when it comes to your photos. This means that the first criteria ALWAYS has to be met since you’ll never reach higher than 50% weight by only meeting the other two.

Also, the second criteria is worth more than the third because even if the photo itself is not taken in portrait mode or framed perfectly, the fact that it tells a story or demonstrates value for you makes up for it whereas you can only have so many high quality photos of you just smiling at the camera in different basic locations like your house and random walls before it gets too repetitive.

Okay, but what do I mean about telling a story or demonstrating value?

Basically that means you’re in a cool place and/or you’re doing something interesting in the photo that isn’t just posing for the camera and/or you’re showing off something interesting about you and/or something interesting is happening around you.

For instance: you’re playing an instrument or you’re playing with an animal or you’re dancing with a girl or you’re in front of a beautiful landscape or you’re showing off your body/stylish outfit (in a contextually appropriate manner) or you’re doing some other kind of interesting activity.

Essentially, these are all things that show who you are as a person (not just what you look like physically - except for the topless shot, of course) and could even be conversation starters for a girl and THAT’S what makes them good photos.

What if your photo meets all 3 criteria?

Well then you don’t just have a good photo, you have a GREAT photo. Put together a well-curated profile with a collection of 6 different photos that meet all 3 criteria and I guarantee you’ll get matches (assuming you’ve maximized your attractiveness too, of course).

Hopefully this helped to clarify what people mean when they say you need better photos.

Often, a lot of people (myself included) will say that in order to succeed on dating apps and Instagram, you need good pictures, but no one ever really defines what exactly makes a good picture so I’ve decided to write this post to help clear up the confusion.

There are 3 very important criteria when it comes to good OLD/IG pictures:

1 ~ You look attractive in it (50% weight)

2 ~ It tells an interesting story and/or demonstrates some kind of value (30% weight)

3 ~ It’s a high quality/well-composed photo (20% weight)

For a picture to be good, it must meet at least 2 of the 3 criteria with one of them being the first because no matter what, you NEED to look attractive in the photo for it to be a good photo for OLD/IG.

This also means your face needs to be visible in it as well (unless you’re indirectly showing off your body). And no, I’m not talking about being a chad (there is a lot more to your attractiveness than just the shape of your face), I’m talking about your facial expression, your pose, and the lighting in your picture.

A high quality photo that tells an interesting story/demonstrates value, but where you don’t look attractive simply isn’t good enough. This is where a lot of guys fail with their photos because they’ll say “look, it’s a nice photo of me playing the guitar”. Okay, but your pose is stiff, your smile is awkward, and the lighting is unflattering so no, it’s not a good OLD/IG photo.

For instance, here is a good example of a photo that is high quality, tells a story/demonstrates value (he’s running a marathon), and where the guy looks attractive in it. And now here’s a very similar photo that is also high quality, tells the exact same story (also running a marathon), but the guy doesn’t look attractive in it because of his constipated facial expression and mid-stride pose. See the difference?

Just like we all try to aim for 7s or higher when it comes to girls, you should also be trying to aim for 70% weight or higher when it comes to your photos. This means that the first criteria ALWAYS has to be met since you’ll never reach higher than 50% weight by only meeting the other two.

Also, the second criteria is worth more than the third because even if the photo itself is not taken in portrait mode or framed perfectly, the fact that it tells a story or demonstrates value for you makes up for it whereas you can only have so many high quality photos of you just smiling at the camera in different basic locations like your house and random walls before it gets too repetitive.

Okay, but what do I mean about telling a story or demonstrating value?

Basically that means you’re in a cool place and/or you’re doing something interesting in the photo that isn’t just posing for the camera and/or you’re showing off something interesting about you and/or something interesting is happening around you.

For instance: you’re playing an instrument or you’re playing with an animal or you’re dancing with a girl or you’re in front of a beautiful landscape or you’re showing off your body/stylish outfit (in a contextually appropriate manner) or you’re doing some other kind of interesting activity.

Essentially, these are all things that show who you are as a person (not just what you look like physically - except for the topless shot, of course) and could even be conversation starters for a girl and THAT’S what makes them good photos.

What if your photo meets all 3 criteria?

Well then you don’t just have a good photo, you have a GREAT photo. Put together a well-curated profile with a collection of 6 different photos that meet all 3 criteria and I guarantee you’ll get matches (assuming you’ve maximized your attractiveness too, of course).

Hopefully this helped to clarify what people mean when they say you need better photos.

A lot of guys complain about girls on dating apps, claiming that they’re just there to waste time or that they only want validation, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Are there girls like that on the apps? Of course there are, but the vast majority are legitimately looking to meet cool guys to date, fuck, and get into relationships with. I should know, more than half of the women I’ve been with have come from dating apps.

The problem is that women are spoiled with choices because as we know, a lot of guys will swipe right on anything so almost every time a girl swipes right, it’s a match for her, especially if she’s highly desirable. Therefore, she has multiple matches to handle which can be overwhelming for her. Women will deal with this by being selective about who they choose to continue a conversation with.

What this means is that a match doesn’t actually mean anything.

Women have endless matches to deal with so what makes her match with you special? Unless you have something very unique in common or you’re a total chad, your match with her means literally nothing to her. All it means is that she found you attractive enough when she saw your profile to give you a chance at shooting your shot with her, that’s it.

You can compare it to a girl who smiles at you from across the room at the bar. She finds you attractive and is inviting you to come talk to her, but if you are weird as you walk over to her or you say some stupid/boring shit to her when you walk up to her, that initial interest she had in you is gone immediately. It’s the exact same thing with dating app matches.

A match does not mean she wants to get into a relationship with you, sleep with you, go on a date with you, give you her number, or even respond to you at all. You have to earn all that shit.

There’s so much garbage out there on the apps for women with creeps who immediately ask them to fuck or who say dumbass shit or who are boring AF or who are total losers, so you need to prove that you aren’t one of those idiots if you want to actually take her out on a date. The thing is, the bar is so low that it really isn’t all that difficult to do it, but you do need to know what you’re doing or else you can easily screw it up.

The first test is your opener. The better the opener, the better your overall chances, but at the end of the day, as long as you aren’t opening with “wanna fuk” or something equally as dumb/weird, then you’ve already passed the first test. The more repeatable the opener too, the better for you as you can just copy/paste it for every match like I do.

Some of you might be thinking “but I don’t open with anything dumb/weird and yet lots of girls still don’t respond to my opener”.

First off, there is no such thing as a 100% response rate opener. There will always be girls who randomly become exclusive with someone, delete the apps for their mental health, lose your message in the sea of endless messages they get, get distracted by a chad, or some other random scenario that has nothing to do with you or your opener. If she doesn’t respond to your (non-weird/dumb/creepy) opener, then just forget about her and focus on the next match.

That being said, the quality of your profile also plays a role in how invested she is going to be in your interaction with her. Remember, you’re competing with a bunch of other guys she has matched with. Yes, she may have swiped right on you initially, but when evaluating her options, she may find other profiles more interesting and choose to ignore the match she made with you to focus on the others. This is why it’s so important to build the best profile possible if you want to find success on the apps.

The second test is how you choose to lead the conversation.

If after your opener, you then choose to go into interview mode (“tell me about yourself”, “what are your hobbies”, etc.), then you’ve fucked yourself. These types of questions aren’t even good in person, but they’re even worse on dating apps. You need to be fun, flirty, and interesting if you want to stand out in her match list.

This is my typical messaging routine when I’m in my hometown and this is my typical routine for when I’m not. Either emulate what I do or come up with your own routine that works for you. A lot of this is very repeatable so you don’t really need to (and you shouldn’t) invest a lot of energy into it.

The final test is knowing when to close the conversation on the app and establish date plans + get her contact info.

Being fun, flirty, and interesting is good, but if you’re not asking her out at some point, she’s eventually going to lose interest and focus on other guys. Similarly, if you try to close too quickly before she’s had a chance to build confidence in you, she’ll be hesitant and feel pressured by your rushed attempt. In reality, all you need is between 5-15 messages exchanged between you and her to ask her out so play around with it and find that sweet spot.

And if you fail at any of these tests, don’t let it get to you. Re-evaluate what you’re doing so that you can improve your results with your next match + adjust accordingly and remember that just because you matched with her doesn’t mean she wants anything to do with you. You still have to prove yourself to her by passing these three tests first, then you’ll get your chance to actually seduce her in person which is where the real game begins.

Good luck out there boys 🫡

A lot of guys complain about girls on dating apps, claiming that they’re just there to waste time or that they only want validation, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Are there girls like that on the apps? Of course there are, but the vast majority are legitimately looking to meet cool guys to date, fuck, and get into relationships with. I should know, more than half of the women I’ve been with have come from dating apps.

The problem is that women are spoiled with choices because as we know, a lot of guys will swipe right on anything so almost every time a girl swipes right, it’s a match for her, especially if she’s highly desirable. Therefore, she has multiple matches to handle which can be overwhelming for her. Women will deal with this by being selective about who they choose to continue a conversation with.

What this means is that a match doesn’t actually mean anything.

Women have endless matches to deal with so what makes her match with you special? Unless you have something very unique in common or you’re a total chad, your match with her means literally nothing to her. All it means is that she found you attractive enough when she saw your profile to give you a chance at shooting your shot with her, that’s it.

You can compare it to a girl who smiles at you from across the room at the bar. She finds you attractive and is inviting you to come talk to her, but if you are weird as you walk over to her or you say some stupid/boring shit to her when you walk up to her, that initial interest she had in you is gone immediately. It’s the exact same thing with dating app matches.

A match does not mean she wants to get into a relationship with you, sleep with you, go on a date with you, give you her number, or even respond to you at all. You have to earn all that shit.

There’s so much garbage out there on the apps for women with creeps who immediately ask them to fuck or who say dumbass shit or who are boring AF or who are total losers, so you need to prove that you aren’t one of those idiots if you want to actually take her out on a date. The thing is, the bar is so low that it really isn’t all that difficult to do it, but you do need to know what you’re doing or else you can easily screw it up.

The first test is your opener. The better the opener, the better your overall chances, but at the end of the day, as long as you aren’t opening with “wanna fuk” or something equally as dumb/weird, then you’ve already passed the first test. The more repeatable the opener too, the better for you as you can just copy/paste it for every match like I do.

Some of you might be thinking “but I don’t open with anything dumb/weird and yet lots of girls still don’t respond to my opener”.

First off, there is no such thing as a 100% response rate opener. There will always be girls who randomly become exclusive with someone, delete the apps for their mental health, lose your message in the sea of endless messages they get, get distracted by a chad, or some other random scenario that has nothing to do with you or your opener. If she doesn’t respond to your (non-weird/dumb/creepy) opener, then just forget about her and focus on the next match.

That being said, the quality of your profile also plays a role in how invested she is going to be in your interaction with her. Remember, you’re competing with a bunch of other guys she has matched with. Yes, she may have swiped right on you initially, but when evaluating her options, she may find other profiles more interesting and choose to ignore the match she made with you to focus on the others. This is why it’s so important to build the best profile possible if you want to find success on the apps.

The second test is how you choose to lead the conversation.

If after your opener, you then choose to go into interview mode (“tell me about yourself”, “what are your hobbies”, etc.), then you’ve fucked yourself. These types of questions aren’t even good in person, but they’re even worse on dating apps. You need to be fun, flirty, and interesting if you want to stand out in her match list.

This is my typical messaging routine when I’m in my hometown and this is my typical routine for when I’m not. Either emulate what I do or come up with your own routine that works for you. A lot of this is very repeatable so you don’t really need to (and you shouldn’t) invest a lot of energy into it.

The final test is knowing when to close the conversation on the app and establish date plans + get her contact info.

Being fun, flirty, and interesting is good, but if you’re not asking her out at some point, she’s eventually going to lose interest and focus on other guys. Similarly, if you try to close too quickly before she’s had a chance to build confidence in you, she’ll be hesitant and feel pressured by your rushed attempt. In reality, all you need is between 5-10 messages exchanged between you and her to ask her out so play around with it and find that sweet spot.

And if you fail at any of these tests, don’t let it get to you. Re-evaluate what you’re doing so that you can improve your results with your next match + adjust accordingly and remember that just because you matched with her doesn’t mean she wants anything to do with you. You still have to prove yourself to her by passing these three tests first, then you’ll get your chance to actually seduce her in person which is where the real game begins.

Good luck out there boys 🫡

Since almost 80% of all the lays I’ve gotten in my life from dating apps have come from cities that aren’t my hometown due to having spent most of my adult life either traveling or living in different places, I’ve had a lot of experience gaming girls on dating apps in different cities. However, I’ve only recently come up with this messaging routine that I’ve been finding a lot of success with.

Upon matching, I open with my standard opener where I compliment her on her smile and vibe (this opener kills it every time). After she responds, I ask her where she’s from. After she tells me, and if she’s a local, I’ll respond with “Ooh a local 😍”. If she’s not a local, then I’ll skip saying something about it and move on to the next part of the routine (haven’t found a good alternative flirty line for when she’s not a local yet, anyone got any suggestions?).

Now usually, she’ll ask you where you’re from in return, to which you respond with “I’m from city, country, have you ever been before?”, but even if she doesn’t ask you where you’re from, you can just volunteer the same information regardless to keep the routine moving. At this point, she will either respond yes or no.

If she says no, you respond with “Don’t worry, I’ll show you around when I take you to meet your parents-in-law 😘”. If she says yes, you still say the same thing, just tweaked accordingly: “So you won’t be surprised when I take you to meet your parents-in-law then 😘”.

Girls love this line as it’s cute and flirty, but still confident and cheeky. At this point, you’ve built enough trust that you can move to the number-close by saying “We should get together for a drink soon” or some other variation of that line. If she says no or that she wants to chat more first, then forget about her and move on as she’s more trouble than she’s worth. However, most girls will say yes at this point.

Then you ask her for her contact information to figure out the time and place and set up the date there. I personally ask her for her IG and use this routine to find out if she’s already DTF or if I need to take her out on a date first (can be risky so use with caution - best used when you have multiple options and want to filter out those who are extra work). I then proceed accordingly.

Here’s the routine line by line:

Me: Heyy what’s happening name? Love your smile, you’ve got a great vibe ✌️

Her: Omg thank you so do you

Me: Where are you from?

Her: I’m from city

Me: Ooh a local 😍

Me again: I’m from city, country, have you ever been before?

Her: No I haven’t, but it’s on my list!

Me: Don’t worry, I’ll show you around when I take you to meet your parents-in-law 😘

Her: Omg I love that

Me: We should get together for a drink soon

Her: Yes we should

Me: Pass me your IG so we can figure out the time and place

And that’s it! Give it a try and see how it performs for you.

Since almost 80% of all the lays I’ve gotten in my life from dating apps have come from cities that aren’t my hometown due to having spent most of my adult life either traveling or living in different places, I’ve had a lot of experience gaming girls on dating apps in different cities. However, I’ve only recently come up with this messaging routine that I’ve been finding a lot of success with.

Upon matching, I open with my standard opener where I compliment her on her smile and vibe (this opener kills it every time). After she responds, I ask her where she’s from. After she tells me, and if she’s a local, I’ll respond with “Ooh a local 😍”. If she’s not a local, then I’ll skip saying something about it and move on to the next part of the routine (haven’t found a good alternative flirty line for when she’s not a local yet, anyone got any suggestions?).

Now usually, she’ll ask you where you’re from in return, to which you respond with “I’m from city, country, have you ever been before?”, but even if she doesn’t ask you where you’re from, you can just volunteer the same information regardless to keep the routine moving. At this point, she will either respond yes or no.

If she says no, you respond with “Don’t worry, I’ll show you around when I take you to meet your parents-in-law 😘”. If she says yes, you still say the same thing, just tweaked accordingly: “So you won’t be surprised when I take you to meet your parents-in-law then 😘”.

Girls love this line as it’s cute and flirty, but still confident and cheeky. At this point, you’ve built enough trust that you can move to the number-close by saying “We should get together for a drink soon” or some other variation of that line. If she says no or that she wants to chat more first, then forget about her and move on as she’s more trouble than she’s worth. However, most girls will say yes at this point.

Then you ask her for her contact information to figure out the time and place and set up the date there. I personally ask her for her IG and use this routine to find out if she’s already DTF or if I need to take her out on a date first (can be risky so use with caution - best used when you have multiple options and want to filter out those who are extra work). I then proceed accordingly.

Here’s the routine line by line:

Me: Heyy what’s happening name? Love your smile, you’ve got a great vibe ✌️

Her: Omg thank you so do you

Me: Where are you from?

Her: I’m from city

Me: Ooh a local 😍

Me again: I’m from city, country, have you ever been before?

Her: No I haven’t, but it’s on my list!

Me: Don’t worry, I’ll show you around when I take you to meet your parents-in-law 😘

Her: Omg I love that

Me: We should get together for a drink soon

Her: Yes we should

Me: Pass me your IG so we can figure out the time and place

And that’s it! Give it a try and see how it performs for you.

There are so many parallels between game and marathons that it really helps to compare the two so you can gain perspective on what it takes to succeed.

In a sprint, there is only one winner (or three, depending on who you ask). However in a marathon, everyone who finishes is a winner. Hell, even those who simply attempt marathons are winners in their own right. This mindset is key.

Yes, there are still people who finish first, but those are people who train their whole lives for that sort of result and regardless, the average marathon runner isn’t even trying to finish first out of everyone, they’re just trying to finish and ideally, beat their own personal record while doing it. Maybe they even finished first in their specific category (gender, age, height, race, disability, etc) which is already a huge accomplishment in and of itself.

Therefore, you need to celebrate the little wins throughout the marathon and be reasonable about your expectations. Every step in the process is a win and should be treated as such.

For instance: first, you should be able to run 5k (defeat approach anxiety and/or get matches). Once you’ve accomplished that, then you can aim for running 10k (get a girl’s number and/or make out with her at the club). After that, you can aim for 20k (get her to go on a date with you and/or to come home with you from the club). And finally, complete the home stretch to finish the race (get her clothes off and go to pound town).

Yes, we’re all trying to get our dicks wet, that’s the ultimate goal, but getting to that point requires passing all these other milestones that you should still be celebrating, especially when you’re at the beginning of your seduction journey. Nobody who aspires to run a marathon expects to be able to run all 26 miles the next day, they have to train for it and they set realistic goals at the beginning.

And yes, there are some people who got lucky with genetics and will have an easier time to reach the finish line, but again, this isn’t about them, it’s about you. The average marathon runner isn’t focused on anyone else but themselves and you shouldn’t be either.

So stop worrying about finishing the race or who finishes before you and focus on making it to the next 5k. After all, it takes 26 miles to run a marathon and everyone who runs one is a winner, no matter what.

There are so many parallels between game and marathons that it really helps to compare the two so you can gain perspective on what it takes to succeed.

In a sprint, there is only one winner (or three, depending on who you ask). However in a marathon, everyone who finishes is a winner. Hell, even those who simply attempt marathons are winners in their own right. This mindset is key.

Yes, there are still people who finish first, but those are people who train their whole lives for that sort of result and regardless, the average marathon runner isn’t even trying to finish first out of everyone, they’re just trying to finish and ideally, beat their own personal record while doing it. Maybe they even finished first in their specific category (gender, age, height, race, disability, etc) which is already a huge accomplishment in and of itself.

Therefore, you need to celebrate the little wins throughout the marathon and be reasonable about your expectations. Every step in the process is a win and should be treated as such.

For instance: first, you should be able to run 5k (defeat approach anxiety and/or get matches). Once you’ve accomplished that, then you can aim for running 10k (get a girl’s number and/or make out with her at the club). After that, you can aim for 20k (get her to go on a date with you and/or to come home with you from the club). And finally, complete the home stretch to finish the race (get her clothes off and go to pound town).

Yes, we’re all trying to get our dicks wet, that’s the ultimate goal, but getting to that point requires passing all these other milestones that you should still be celebrating, especially when you’re at the beginning of your seduction journey. Nobody who aspires to run a marathon expects to be able to run all 26 miles the next day, they have to train for it and they set realistic goals at the beginning.

And yes, there are some people who got lucky with genetics and will have an easier time to reach the finish line, but again, this isn’t about them, it’s about you. The average marathon runner isn’t focused on anyone else but themselves and you shouldn’t be either.

So stop worrying about finishing the race or who finishes before you and focus on making it to the next 5k. After all, it takes 26 miles to run a marathon and everyone who runs one is a winner, no matter what.

I usually go for the lay on the first date by inviting her over to mine at the end of it to share some wine, but in the occasions that she doesn’t come over at the end of a first date or I just want to see her a second time, this is typically my go-to second date idea (unless I sense that she’d be cool with a netflix and chill type date as a second date, in which case I go for that since it’s easier).

The reason why cooking together is the best second date idea is because for one, you have her at your place already, making it easy to escalate to sex afterwards. Secondly, it’s cheaper than going out for dinner or doing some other activity. And thirdly, it’s a fun thing to do together that also gives you plenty of opportunities to increase sexual tension and turn up the heat with regards to teasing and physical escalation.

For instance, you could get the girl to chop up the veggies, then while she’s doing that, come up behind her to “check on her work” by hugging her from behind, kissing her neck, and making out with her, then pulling away to let her continue her work. Or maybe she’s in your way so you need to hold her waist to move her aside, etc. Throw in some light teasing about how she’s performing the task you gave her too and she’ll turn into butter in your hands. Then after you’ve eaten dinner, move to the couch to relax and escalate to sex from there. Easy.

And if you don’t know how to cook, you can just subscribe to one of those meal kit delivery services like Hello Fresh since they send you the pre-portioned ingredients with the recipes so all you really have to do is follow the directions on the recipe. Helps with framing of the date too since you can just say “how about we cook something together? I got some Hello Fresh recipes sitting in the fridge that I need to make anyway”, removing any potential pressure she might feel about the idea since you’re telling her you were going to do this without her regardless.

I usually go for the lay on the first date by inviting her over to mine at the end of it to share some wine, but in the occasions that she doesn’t come over at the end of a first date or I just want to see her a second time, this is typically my go-to second date idea (unless I sense that she’d be cool with a netflix and chill type date as a second date, in which case I go for that since it’s easier).

The reason why cooking together is the best second date idea is because for one, you have her at your place already, making it easy to escalate to sex afterwards. Secondly, it’s cheaper than going out for dinner or doing some other activity. And thirdly, it’s a fun thing to do together that also gives you plenty of opportunities to increase sexual tension and turn up the heat with regards to teasing and physical escalation.

For instance, you could get the girl to chop up the veggies, then while she’s doing that, come up behind her to “check on her work” by hugging her from behind, kissing her neck, and making out with her, then pulling away to let her continue her work. Or maybe she’s in your way so you need to hold her waist to move her aside, etc. Throw in some light teasing about how she’s performing the task you gave her too and she’ll turn into butter in your hands. Then after you’ve eaten dinner, move to the couch to relax and escalate to sex from there. Easy.

And if you don’t know how to cook, you can just subscribe to one of those meal kit delivery services like Hello Fresh since they send you the pre-portioned ingredients with the recipes so all you really have to do is follow the directions on the recipe. Helps with framing of the date too since you can just say “how about we cook something together? I got some Hello Fresh recipes sitting in the fridge that I need to make anyway”, removing any potential pressure she might feel about the idea since you’re telling her you were going to do this without her regardless.